We were contacted late last week by a lady in here early 30's from Grays in Essex as she had concerns about her current partner. The general consensus was that he was very popular within her local community and on the face of it and certainly in a social sense could do no wrong as he was much loved in the eyes of their close knit group of friends. During the initial phone based consultation, she had informed us rumours had started to emerge about his conduct before they had met and as he was a bit of a 'Jack the lad' type, they had included that he had been involved with criminal gangs and also that he had quite a dark side with a potential history of violence. The gentleman in question had no criminal record and as our client had young children she just wanted to be sure that she was with a fit and proper person to be around them and this was why she had made the initial call.
As with all phone based consultations that we conduct, Our client's matter was treated with the strict confidence and conducted by an experienced and skilled person who could understand and dissect her problems. We write this blog post with her permission and hope that it may resonate with others who may be in the same or similar circumstance. So back to the matter at hand, the client informed us that they had been dating for the past 6 months and she was considering them moving in together but with the nature of the concerns she had there were safeguarding issues which needed to be some how resolved before she could move forward. She wanted to approach his about doing a lie detector test before they moved in just so she could be clear on the rumours about the violence as he had categorically denied it when they had tried to discuss the matter.
We suggested that as we are objective that she should not make any presumptions i.e. that if he refuses doing the test he is not necessarily guilty and if he agrees to doing the test it is not an assumption he must be telling the truth. We are client focused and her best interests were central to our approach. She went away for a few days to consider what we had put to her and also to approach her partner about doing the test. When she returned to us later in the week she informed us that her partner had agreed to do the test and had outwardly rejected all of the rumours as being false. He had also got very upset and she said he had acted really out character in terms of what she had experienced with him previously.
As we analysed her problems further it appeared that he had tried to turn the matter back on her by firing wild accusation to deflect the rumours, was generally defensive and was 'gas lighting' to evoke a reaction from her. She said that this had only reinforced her resolve to find out more about who she is really with and understand the basis of their relationship. After some assistance from us in terms of how best to approach her partner about doing the test, she came forward and scheduled the test as he had finally agreed that he would do it.
On the day of the lie detector test, our polygraph examiner had arrived early to meet with our client so that we could go through the kind of questions she wanted to put forward and also to reassure her that she was in safe hands. She initially had a face to face consultation with us at the office in Chelmsford whilst her partner waited in reception and we went through the questions. There was no issue from our perspective if the examinee (Her partner) knew the questions beforehand as it does not change the effectiveness of the test but she had wanted some extra assistance and we were happy to provide so that she could make sure they were worded effectively. Her core issue was her concern about the rumours about his alleged violent past, so the relevant questions were formulated around her suspicions of his violent history.
The examinee was then invited into the examination room where during the pre-test interview, each question was discussed in detail so that every term or word used in the questions was not only fully understood but the definition of each term was agreed to mean the same to the examiner as it did to the examinee. This is a critical phase of the polygraph examination and is all important in obtaining a verified outcome to the test procedure.
On completion, her partner was taken to a separate room to commence with the polygraph test. Our client waited for him and on completion of the test was informed that her partner had indeed failed the test. She visibly upset but said that she is happy that she can move forward knowing the truth. She actually contacted us back later that week to inform us that the Lie Detector Test had been really helpful as after the test it had become clear to her that her partner indeed had a darker side to their personality and she believed they had a narcissistic personality. She also conformed that her biggest priority was her children and she was happy that she knew the truth.
In conclusion, although the lie detector test cannot promise to reveal the truth that you wish to hear... It can and will assist if you need to know for sure about someone who could potentially act as a direct threat to your well-being or that of your loved ones. Although, her partner had never been traced or had a criminal record there was an underlying problem which had she failed to take action and arrange a lie detector test, it could have resulted in more serious repercussions for her and her family. If you are looking to discuss potentially organising a test then please feel free to get in touch. We are always client focused and strictly confidential.
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